Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Giving Up


I'm sure everyone of us has their favorite verse on every song they knew or absorbed whenever the emotional self is alive and kicking. At times I may go to the famous, there are also times I dig deeper to less seen lyrics.
I don't wanna be someone who walks away so easily
I'm here to stay and make the difference that I can make
Our differences they do a lot to teach us how to use
The tools and gifts we got, yeah, we got a lot at stake
Giving up, mostly, is associated in a relationship. "Until when will you be dumb to realize that the other does not love you anymore and you are still messing with your life when in fact you should be having your happier self back?" is the most common question. Would you give up that small instance, that you two had a small fight? Would you give up easily, you will not even try again to see if the heart had softened already?

Are you the kind of person who gives up without knowing the reasons why, not even hearing the person out? So many famous quotations and principles presents itself when we are on these intense ramification and battling of our emotions, choosing the hardest, simplest. Still, it boils down on you. The last laugh is on to you.

Before anything else, try to calm yourself down. Think about it. Admit that you have done some mistake and so does the other. On these circumstance, if the other is so hard-headed and all angry, relax. Don't let the two of you become thunder and volcano. Well, you can, if after you are the sweetest couple, friends, again. Again, stay calm. Some things may be better left unsaid. Choose your reasons, and words carefully. We don't want another battle here again. Sort. And compromise. After all the admittance, I bet so sure, that you learned something from each other.

Every feeling of giving up gives another reason for chances, to rebuild, to retain, to love more, trust more, and believe more. That is the positive side. In every argument or fight, one has been to, don't give up. Don't give up on the person. On these occasion, you can see what your partner is going through. In the most vulnerable state of the most not understanding situation, we let our guards down that what we only wanted is to cry and be the weak person beside the one we love.

A bit of silence with your presence (and understanding even though you are bombarded why he/she does not talk to you for awhile) is what one could ask for. Hold hands. Hug. Kiss. The person will come to its being again, alive and loving you.